just noticed your reply(moments after I posted my response).  you got it.

Clayton

On 10/18/06, Jima <jima at beer.tclug.org> wrote:
> On Wed, 18 Oct 2006, Clayton Smith wrote:
> > I've been trying to connect to a remote mysql server..
>
>   Off-the-cuff thought: Might mysqld be using tcp_wrappers?  Try checking
> /etc/hosts.allow and /etc/hosts.deny?  I seem to recall checks against
> tcp_wrappers would behave as you're seeing (it connects, then drops the
> connection).
>
>       Jima
>